Conselhos da Dona Felizbina

Posted by Melissa Costa on Feb 3, 2012 in Entertainment | Comments Off

Dear Felizbina
I hate Valentine’s Day.  My husband and I split on this day and every time it comes around I am reminded of the past, the pain and the hardship of our divorce.
It makes me want to stay in the house and not watch TV until it passes, as I am tired of all of the cupids and all of the commercials. What can I do to avoid this without having to hide my head?
Maria  Partida

Dear Maria,
Do you get upset when you see a wedding? Do wedding rings drive you nuts?
I understand that this day reminds you of difficult times. It is only natural, as it marks an anniversary for you that you seem to rather have avoided. But you must move on.
You cannot hide your head, avoid going out or stop watching TV. You need to get over your martyr syndrome. I know you are Portuguese, and probably even an Azorean like me (which only doubles the guilt factor), but you need to take control of your emotions and MOVE ON.
Yes, Valentine’s day is far too commercial. It has too many expectations on it and, yes, it does seem to be a day when lovers also break up. But that does not mean that all things connected to love should be viewed as bad by you.
You need to see it like just another day, a day where you can have low expectations and a day when you can buy yourself something that makes you feel better — something your foolish husband probably could never have thought of.
Make it a good day. Good luck!